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first, i would like to thank jieee for sending my dinner all the way to the where i was(it's a secret =x). thanks much, and it was delicious :D

okay, today was funny. supposedly. home ruins everything. not mine.

topic of the day: parents

parents, what are they? they are mature human beings who educate their children and raise them to become adults, not as what they want us to be but adults that are also mature and independent, in thinking, actions, whatsoever.

my knowledge of parents, they are kind, loving, caring, etc. no biasness between any children be it two, three or four. every children they have will be treated equally and such. parents are supposed to be encouraging in every way, studies, other extra activities they take. parents should let their children choose the path they want, they can help carve the way, but the final result lies with their children themselves. parents shouldnt demoralize their children like calling them stupid or saying things like, "why cant you do such a simple thing like this?!". and when you said it in a harsh tone or loud tone, it's scolding. parents deny when they scold. they'll just say, "im just telling you, not that i want to scold you." . if it isnt, why do we children feel so hurt whenever u scream at us?

parents shouldnt throw their temper at us. we, as children, no, teenagers are a well bunch of 15 going on 16. yes, we do have older siblings. they do fairly well better than us, but i find that, there shouldnt be comparison between two. not say two, three! no matter how many kids there are in a family, everyone should be treated equally and expectations should be set prior to the child's ability. even if there isnt an older sibling around, the younger one. parents pamper and spoil the younger one. yes, giving way. to a limit. there's always limit to things. too much of giving way will end up having the child spoilt, spoilt brat he/she will become. if parents think that giving their children whatever they want will give them happiness and all, that's so wrong. it will only end up with your child pampered and spoilt, everything u have to give to him/her etc. no independence at all so what happens? your child relies heavily on you and when u are not able to give him/her what he/she wants, who's going to suffer?

not saying whatsoever, parents are the trees of families. families are there to stand by each other when something happens. words of encouragement are needed when one is down. sometimes, scoldings do no good. they just hurt one's feelings and pride. especially children. when a parent scolds his child, " you're stupid." the child feels really bad and hurtful, and too many times of having the same experience will result in having the child to really think he's stupid. and that's the moment he's really stupid. so why allow this to happen?

yes i know, parents do have limits and patience. but listen out more to your children. listen to what they have to say, what they have to tell. it takes two hands to clap. so it takes the child to communicate and the parent to listen. vice versa. it's a task that just requires ears and mouth. of course, some things parents hear may set them off bursting red and volcano erupting within them. take things easy, chill and such. best is to sit down and talk. have a nice good talk with your family to understand them better. this way, there wouldnt be communication breakdown. understanding of family members is important. parents may seem to know their children as they have watched them grow from young. but their children have been exposed to school life and the open society. things have changed within them, their attitudes and personalities. and children cant go the way parents want them to because children have their own mindset. they know what they want and such so let them go their way. of course, asking them what's the path they want to take and support them whole-heartedly.

my parents always tell me this, 我吃盐比你吃米多。yea, since they had the experience, they can share with their children. they can guide them along as they go, giving advices and such. old days words can still remain the same but things have changed. some things have to be related in other points of view.

i think i should stop here. all the above is by what i think and feel. hope there will be no flaming -.- im sorry but i feel that i can spill everything here. if u are happy reading it, erm, thanks? if u are not happy, or have a different point of view, it's okay to say. i accept all other points of views. maybe mine's too general. besides, everything has many points of view. and there's always counter argument.

night all.